Exactly 3 months ago, today, my dad passed away from cancer in Hong Kong.
I woke up this morning, thinking about him and yes the day did start off very teary. I’ve come to accept this is the new normal and it’s okay for now. The experts say there are 4-7 stages to grief and in no particular order, a person will experience moving through these areas but that journey won’t be the same for everyone. I think this is true.
There is a scribble in my notebook that says..” With every loss, there is gain “ and as they days and weeks roll on I try and find meaning in that, it helps me ground some perspective especially when I’m having a wobble, usually when the sadness feels too much.
What I realise is , I gained time, precious time.I got to be with my father during the last 3 months of his life, taking care of him in his darkest and most sickest period.We shared many moments together, tears , stories, some laughter and a lot of my bad cooking and good and bad days. I miss him, I miss my dad and I just wanted to say that out loud today because I haven't been able to. I love this photo, that’s me and a very 70’s looking father, I’ve not spent a christmas with my dad since I was a teenager and the second picture is off my first and last one with him.
Some of my closest friends and family are going through their own grief and experiencing losses of their own, difficult changes and I just wanted to send lots of love and hugs there way because sometimes life is tough but with love and support be it near or far, we can get through things a little easier.
I will be forever grateful to the family and friends that sent love my way, showed support and love for me during this time and everyone that came to visit my dad , made calls and was so generous with all their hearts. x May love and Kindness always prevail. 💕 :
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